If you found a child watching porn?

[Skeptik]

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Teach him the right way show him sites that won't ruin his device or computer and how to clean out cookies, etc. Make sure to have a save point and back up his computer/device in a worst case scenario.

^all jokes aside, this response

[pizzadust]

introduce him to hentai, the porn for gentlemen

[Ccrack]

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well it's not just any child
it was my little brother

I think I had a very bad response. I need to remedy the situation while still highlighting the fact that porn is bad for him and society.

so you think its fine to dictate his sexuality to him?

you could try minding your own buisness

[V]

[Nikamara]

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so you think its fine to dictate his sexuality to him?

you could try minding your own buisness

this has nothing to do with dictating his sexuality XD

[Ccrack]

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this has nothing to do with dictating his sexuality XD

telling him he cant view porn is dictating his sexuality

you dont personally approve of what hes looking at so you use your position of authority over him to prevent him from doing something he wanted to do - i.e. dictating

next thing you'll be telling him his standards of beauty are wrong and try to shame him in to liking fat ugly cretins

[Whitebeard]

Time to educate my child...Balkans style.

"Time to taste the belt kiddo. We don't do that shit in our house."

[Nikamara]

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telling him he cant view porn is dictating his sexuality

you dont personally approve of what hes looking at so you use your position of authority over him to prevent him from doing something he wanted to do - i.e. dictating

next thing you'll be telling him his standards of beauty are wrong and try to shame him in to liking fat ugly cretins

that doesn't dictate his sexuality though, just his consumption of porn.

he already likes fat ugly cretins based on what he was looking at.

[Ccrack]

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that doesn't dictate his sexuality though, just his consumption of porn.

he already likes fat ugly cretins based on what he was looking at.

'dictating someones conusmption of media dosnt skewer someones taste in said media'' - Nikamara

[VICE]

How about you don't approach him.

He's had the sex ed class probably by now, and is interested in sex, and that's alright. I wouldn't want my sister coming to my room to have "the talk". just leave it alone. He'll be busting a nut for years to come regardless. harder you fight it the more he'll do it.

[Pimp of Pimps]

All these people telling her to let her brother do what he wants...

Get of your high horses. Ya'll have no right to tell her family how to operate. Enforcing what they feel is moral is what older family members do to younger ones. Your older siblings, parents etc TELL you what is right and wrong until you are culturally at an age where it is felt you can decide for yourself.

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Your subjective perception is not a credible argument however. You may have "no doubt" that porn has all these effects. But that does not make it an universal truth.

On what basis are you labeling my opinion as subjective? I never listed the reasons behind my opinion.

Whether it's getting drunk, porn or prostitution some people will go to insane lengths to defend clear degeneracy.

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But how I do that in a positive way without him feeling like I'm just being mean and highhanded? Because he's the type who would exactly what you tell him not to do to be defiant.

My initial response was something along the lines of: I am very disappointed in you! You should be ashamed of yourself! Then I grabbed his laptop and deleted his history. Which was not the way to handle this at all. I don't want him to be ashamed of sexual desires because that is not something he should be ashamed of.

Just be as calm and logical as you can. Utilize emotional arguments, like asking him how he would feel if he found out his mom watches porn for example. Use scientific arguments as well.

It's okay if he feels like shit because of your words. So long as you don't take it to extremes. Most boys that age need to be commanded, not asked. He might be defiant, but keep vigilant and he'll likely turn eventually.

[Nikamara]

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How about you don't approach him.

He's had the sex ed class probably by now, and is interested in sex, and that's alright. I wouldn't want my sister coming to my room to have "the talk". just leave it alone. He'll be busting a nut for years to come regardless. harder you fight it the more he'll do it.

He goes to a repressive christian school where he's definitely not had sex ed class. I have no problem with maturbation. It's the porn specifically that I have a problem with.

[Juan]

I swear Pops is like the whitest Christian I've ever met.

[ihascaketoo!]

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that doesn't dictate his sexuality though, just his consumption of porn.

he already likes fat ugly cretins based on what he was looking at.

My sister knocks every time she enters my room even though I'm not doing shit but it's a nice precaution and considered polite. Tell him that if he's going to do it to keep It contained to his room or his bathroom if he has his own. Trust me you dont want a wild child marking every room in your house

Also out of curiosity wtf art was he watching

[VICE]

don't spread your problem to him. live and let live.

[V]

I would probably just cut the internet during the night. During the daytime, just have him leave the door open.

Or just move the computer to a neutral area that is open. Like the living room.

[Nikamara]

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My sister knocks every time she enters my room even though I'm not doing shit but it's a nice precaution and considered polite. Tell him that if he's going to do it to keep It contained to his room or his bathroom if he has his own. Trust me you dont want a wild child marking every room in your house

Also out of curiosity wtf art was he watching

Well he keeps his bedroom door open all the time. He does have his own bathroom, but he also keeps that open cuz he has no shame in his naked body. I used to slam his bathroom door whenever I passed, but I don't think anyone has been doing that since I moved out last year.

[Pimp of Pimps]

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I would probably just cut the internet during the night. During the daytime, just have him leave the door open.

Or just move the computer to a neutral area that is open. Like the living room.

Nod bad.

But there's also the issue of cell phones and tablets.

[V]

13 year olds have phones now?

[Nikamara]

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I would probably just cut the internet during the night. During the daytime, just have him leave the door open.

Or just move the computer to a neutral area that is open. Like the living room.

It was day time, in the music room which I assure you is a very public place XD and we were both in there. I was teaching him math, and I wanted him to stop playing games and pay attention.... but he wasn't playing mine craft

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13 year olds have phones now?

he has a phone, two laptops, and two tablets ._.